"In his newest book, Leahy (The Worry Cure) reveals that jealousy can be a positive feeling when it causes people to reflect on their relationships. But it can also hijack a person’s mind and drive one’s partner away. Using a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and mindfulness techniques to encourage healthy relationships, Leahy first details the strategies that don’t work (e.g., interrogation, accusations, looking for clues) and then guides readers through evaluating and talking back to jealous thoughts. Leahy concludes with a section on how couples can work together to find acceptable solutions. VERDICT Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets."
—Library Journalstarred review
"The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships. Every feeling has a positive and a negative side, and jealousy is no different. Robert Leahy, a well-known psychologist and author, offers keys to using jealousy to build relationships, not tear them down. Rather than denying jealousy or condemning it, this book views jealousy as a signal that a relationship is important and requires investment. This nuanced approach helps committed, long-term relationships flourish rather than stagnate in hurt or end in heartbreak.The book draws from a wide array of therapeutic vantage points, including cognitive behavior therapy and emotional schema theory, giving profound insights into how to address the deep roots of emotional and relational problems. It shows that the path to healing starts inside and moves outward, beginning with the individual and not completed without communication and cooperation as a couple. ... Leahy’s tone is positive and empowering but far from Pollyannaish. He tackles the toughest relationship hurdles, including infidelity, and affirms difficult feelings and circumstances without brushing them aside. Without condemning anyone, the book does not let people off the hook for their own mistakes; it calls each person to account for the hard work of pursuing healthy relationships. ... Real-life examples make the book easy to relate to and make abstract ideas vivid, clear, and practical, showcasing the depth of Leahy’s experience and the prevalence of jealousy in relationships."
—Foreword Reviews
~Foreword Reviews
“Within this book, Robert Leahy, a renowned world leader in our field, illuminates the complex burdens of this universal emotion of jealousy within a love relationship. He then points the way out of this tumultuous storm of thoughts and feelings by offering clear, specific, and practical steps. This is by far the best self-help book for people with jealousy that I have ever read.”
—Reid Wilson, PhD, author of Stopping the Noise in Your Head
~Reid Wilson, PhD
“In The Jealousy Cure, Robert Leahy has provided the reader with a comprehensive understanding of jealousy. ... Leahy, through interactive, fun exercises, helps the reader identify and understand their jealousy. Based on the tried-and-true principles of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), Leahy then equips the reader to address their jealousy so that problematic behaviors and tormenting thoughts and feelings can be reduced. This highly informative and valuable resource will be an essential resource to both those in clinical practice and individuals struggling with jealously.”
—Leslie Sokol, PhD, coauthor of Think Confident, Be Confident; Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens; and The Think Confident, Be Confident Workbook for Teens
~Leslie Sokol, PhD
“Do you have a jealousy problem? Does it interfere with your relationship? Are you consumed with jealous thoughts and jealous feelings? Do you wish you could decrease your suffering? If so, you need this book! Robert Leahy clearly expresses why we feel jealous, he normalizes this intense experience, and he explains how our emotions and our thinking get highjacked. Then he details what to do. He teaches the reader how to detach from jealous thoughts and disengage from unhelpful behavior. He offers tools for coping with jealousy and various strategies to solve problems that it causes in relationships. The Jealousy Cure will help individuals who suffer from jealousy and those who are in relationships with jealous partners. As a stand-alone book or an accompaniment to therapy, The Jealousy Cure is very well written and quite interesting (even if you don’t have a jealousy problem). Most of all, it provides essential skills for couples who need to improve their relationships.”
—Judith S. Beck, PhD, president of the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy
~Judith S. Beck, PhD
“In his latest book, Robert Leahy—acclaimed psychologist and author of The Worry Cure—offers a creative and penetrating, yet hopeful, perspective on jealousy; one of the most misunderstood and highly destructive human emotions. Based on decades of psychotherapy experience and a unique adaptation of the cognitive behavioral approach to emotion, this well-researched, thought-provoking, and practical therapeutic manual provides valuable strategies that can liberate those inflicted with the self-defeating effects of pathological jealousy. Couples caught up in the jealousy vortex will discover wise counsel offered with sensitivity and compassion, making this a must-read for those seeking answers for tormented intimate partners.”
—David A. Clark, PhD, LPsych, professor emeritus at the University of New Brunswick, Canada; author of The Anxious Thoughts Workbook; and coauthor of The Anxiety and Worry Workbook
~David A. Clark, PhD, LPsych
