Splitting

“Filled with concrete and actionable tips from the Quick Start Guide in the beginning to the Resources and References at the end—and on every page between—Bill Eddy and Randi Kreger’s Splitting is quite simply THE absolute MUST resource for those going through a high-conflict divorce and the professionals who support them. I will be keeping a copy on my desk going forward!”
—Susan Guthrie, leading divorce attorney and mediator, cofounder of the Mosten Guthrie Academy, and host of The Divorce & Beyond Podcast

~Susan Guthrie

“This book includes important considerations when planning for physical and emotional safety in court proceedings, particularly when a relationship has been violent and/or abusive. So often, when a person leaves a relationship where their partner has been abusive, the court system becomes the next tool to continue harassment, intimidation, and psychological abuse. My hope is that anyone in our community who feels that there is no way to safely navigate this intimidating process will find this book to be a resourceful and helpful guide.”
—Anna Harper-Guerrero, LMSW, executive vice president and chief strategy officer at the Emerge Center Against Domestic Abuse in Tucson, AZ

~Anna Harper-Guerrero, LMSW

“Parents who find themselves embroiled in high-conflict and court involvement with a co-parent who has a personality disorder face overwhelming challenges to resolve custody disputes and manage their ongoing co-parenting relationship. Bill and Randi not only help readers understand what drives the behaviors of borderline, narcissistic, and antisocial parents, but provide comprehensive and specific advice to help the healthier parent navigate the family court experience and alternatives to formal legal processes when dealing with these individuals. Their comprehensive, step-by-step advice when confronted with a ‘persuasive blamer’ is a lifeline to parents and professionals alike.”
—Matthew J. Sullivan, immediate past president of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts

~Matthew J. Sullivan

“Two noted authorities offer eminently practical advice that has stood the test of time. Whether in the process of breaking up, or managing the troubling aftermath of a split, this comprehensive guide will be your lifeline. Chock-full of advice to protect and empower yourself when dealing with a difficult ex. The clear strategies for effectively presenting and defending your position in court are priceless. For your own well-being, and for your children, get this book and keep it handy.”
—Richard A. Warshak, PhD, author of Divorce Poison

~Richard A. Warshak, PhD

“Splitting is a practical, concise guide as to what to expect when dealing with a high-conflict person in a divorce context. The authors do not sugarcoat the behaviors that will occur during a divorce involving a high-conflict person. Their charts and management suggestions are direct and easy to process. This volume is useful for anyone engaged in handling family law matters.”
—Retired Judge Christine Goldsmith, San Diego Superior Court, family law mediator

~Retired Judge Christine Goldsmith

“Eddy and Kreger’s Splitting is the book that those embroiled in difficult family court proceedings will call ‘a life saver,’ and the book that ‘made me realize I’m not alone.’ Every family court participant will benefit from their expertise in understanding, managing, preparing, and ultimately succeeding in family court despite an opposing party’s scorched-earth tactics.”
—Annette T. Burns, past president of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts; fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers; attorney and family law certified specialist; and coauthor of BIFF for Coparent Communication

~Annette T. Burns

“For anyone targeted by a ‘persuasive blamer,’ this is a must-read. You will learn strategies for responding to blamers’ predictable and often effective court tactics. Recognizing the importance of safety planning where there is risk of domestic violence, the authors make a compelling case for mediation given how the adversarial family court system can escalate aggression. Every family lawyer should include a copy of this book with their initial consult!”
—Hilary A. Linton, JD, LLM, award-winning family lawyer, mediator, and arbitrator in Toronto, ON, Canada; who trains professionals how to assess and manage domestic violence

~Hilary A. Linton, JD, LLM

“Splitting provides concise, clear, and invaluable advice for strategically navigating a divorce from someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or borderline personality disorder (BPD). Following the suggestions laid out in this book will greatly increase the readers’ odds of having a successful marital dissolution under these difficult circumstances.”
—Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, founder and executive director of the Transition Institute of Marin, and author of Contemplating Divorce and Stronger Day by Day

~Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW